Well, a role demands a few costume changes that, in every instance, complement the role. An artist dresses differently from an accountant; a home-maker dresses differently from a hard hat. In every case, it is important to determine what you want to look like and what flatters you. Have style; don’t be trendy. Style can be defined as your look that never goes in or out of fashion; trend is what you learn is in or out and follow when you have not selected your own style.
A stylish woman, at midlife or at any time in life, makes a strong statement about herself. She defines how she sees herself and how she wishes to be seen. It works for her as long as she does not pick a style that is out of sync with her physical frame or her age. When we try to adopt an unflattering look, we will often be uncomfortable with it. So go to your closet. Put together all the clothes that you live in and put them on one end of the rod. Take all the things you bought that you never wear (excluding dressy things for rare occasions). The group of clothing that you wear all the time consists of those that help to define your role. Study them carefully. Take an extra minute to consider each piece and whether you like yourself in it. Then add to them or subtract from them according to wear and tear, but learn to know them as your comfort-level clothing. If you do, then they are your style. Now, study the group of seldom-worn clothes and realize your mistakes.
If you still feel confused, visit a department store and meet with the personal shopper. Most stores offer this valuable service at no charge, and you will probably find out a lot about what you like, what looks best on you, and what goes with what. Remember, too, that just as you may want to change your cosmetic color palette, or your hair color, you may also want to consider whether the colors that you choose in clothing are still the best colors for you.
Figuring out your style should be an enjoyable experience, and one that will add to your confidence when you are choosing what to buy or what to wear. If an outfit “isn’t you,” forget about buying it, because ultimately you will not wear it. Mostly, have fun deciding your role and costuming it.
